“The lesbians are making out again.”
I am not a lesbian. I am not bisexual. I don’t like titles. But when I got called out at a bar for kissing a girlfriend it got me thinking, “why do I feel more comfortable kissing a girl than kissing a guy?”
To begin answering this question, I’d like to pull up a few ‘maybe’ situations.
Maybe it was because I got bored with men or there were no hot ones at the bar. Maybe it was because women are better with their tongues. Maybe it was because so many men have screwed me over or given me a reason to not be comfortable with them that I opt out for a female alternative.
Whatever the reason, I’ve noticed more and more girls are kissing girls, and liking it.
Is this all just an attention gimmick? Maybe for some it is, but I’m sure there’s a little bit more behind it.
I have never kissed someone for attention. But for some reason, sometimes I just get the urge to grab one of my girlfriends and pull her in for a big wet one.
If you put your hands on your hips and bend your knees in tight, you will find yourself on a time warp back to the Greek island of Lesbos and the poet Sappho. The word lesbian derives partly from her home island where she wrote extremely emotional poetry about other women. It was never proven or discovered if Sappho ever acted on her poetic urges.
A couple thousand years later, Katy Perry will write a song about kissing a girl and how much she liked it. In an interview, she said girls are more intimate in their relationships than guys are, and therefore, the song is describing young girls having fun and being ‘touchy-feely.’
But how many girls do you have to kiss and how many homoerotic poems do you have to write before you become considered bisexual?
I think everyone is a little confused at one point or another about their sexuality. On average, 20 per cent of college women say they have kissed another woman. Shockingly, 18 per cent of men admit to kissing another man. I could see the occasional ‘bromance’ blooming to a level where guys become so comfortable with themselves that they can take it to that next level.
I once dated a guy who told me that he would consider it cheating if his girlfriend made out with another girl. Funny thing, I recently ended up kissing his current girlfriend and he didn’t seem to have any problems with that.
Another question on my mind, does a girl get a bad reputation for kissing a lot of girls just like she would if she kissed a lot of guys? I’m always conscious of a roaming reputation, as I am sure many people are. A lot of people are just uncomfortable with PDA in general. But I honestly feel more comfortable kissing a girl than kissing a guy in public.
In my opinion, if something is fun and it isn’t hurting anyone, then what is stopping you? This is the time for experimenting. How will you ever know if that is the car you want to drive for the rest of your life if you never take it out for a test drive?
I will always remember what my mother told me when I asked her how she would react if I told her I was a lesbian. “I just want grandchildren.”
Note: Robin S. Cherry is not the author’s real name. It is an alias for a current Carleton undergraduate student.