Sex blog: You should go and love yourself

Note: This blog post was written by an author who identifies as female. Not all tips may be applicable to all people. While it’s great to acknowledge that the relationships we make with others are important and can be some of the best parts of life, our relationships with ourselves also deserve our respect and attention. So maybe this year, try being the good kind of selfish: think about what you need. We need things emotionally and physically, but let’s start with those physical needs: take some time, alone, to–cough, cough–masturbate. Now all jokes aside it’s a good way to release some tension and find a happy and calm space. It also releases endorphins which make you feel great. Physical […]

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Sex blog: Let’s talk about sex, baby

The golden rule for sex is to always communicate. Of course, this is easier said than done, even if you feel completely at ease with whoever’s genitals you are fooling around with. Personal tastes are, well, personal, and there is a lot of stigma associated with many fetishes. Fear of rejection or ridicule is all too common, but I promise you it doesn’t have to be that way. Take no shame in your interests. Whether it’s BDSM, group sex, roleplay, anal play or literally anything ever, if it’s legal and consensual then it’s all good, baby bay-bay. Sure, others may not be into it, and that’s their prerogative—but you have the right to indulge in any consensual activity with whoever […]

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Sex blog: Consent campaigns and the complexity of sex

Communication is the key to sex-cess (insert laughter/groaning here), and consent is a major component of communication. There has been a lot of talk about consent lately, which is great. Consent is a two-way street: sexual partners also have the responsibility to ask consent. You want to have sex and someone says no? Don’t have sex. Someone wants to have sex with you and you don’t? Say no. These yes-or-no campaigns treat consent as a black-and-white issue: either you have it or you don’t. While it’s great that more and more people are being informed about consent, I strongly believe these campaigns could do a better job of reflecting the diversity of sex. Consent is easy to define with a […]

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Sex blog: Get jiggy with it

I’m going to cut to the chase real quick here: playing music while you’re getting it on is a must, simple as that. But from some resent empirical research conducted by yours truly, I found that the idea of playing music while you’re having a little bedroom fun isn’t common practice—*insert eye roll here.* Before I recommend some great tunes to add to your NEW bedroom playlist, let me help you set the scene. Right now you must be thinking, “This sounds like a great idea, but how do I do this without awkwardly stopping all the action to press the play button?” First things first, have your music-playing machine of choice out and at the ready. Having it within […]

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Sex blog: Popular kink myths, debunked

There seems to be a lot of confusion and misinformation regarding kink, and I don’t mean the type of kink you get in a garden hose. In my experience, the kink community is vastly different than the whip-yielding, scary people many associate with it. It is in fact full of caring people, who simply express love in different ways. Here are some common myths about kink, debunked: People who do BDSM had a fucked-up childhood. Not necessarily. Just like all communities, there are of course some who have histories of abuse, but that is by no means everyone in kink. I, for example, had a wonderful childhood and turned out to be a submissive masochist. Try as I might, I can’t really […]

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