Sex Blog: Party hard, party safe

Congratulations on your graduation from high school! You have officially moved on to post-secondary education, where people complain constantly about their dire need for sleep, yet continue to attend frat parties on Tuesdays. University is also a great source of confusing student politics, awkward conversations with important people, over-caffeinated adolescents and random philanthropic causes. As Monica Geller said to a very wet, unwed Rachel Green: “Welcome to the real world. It sucks. You’re gonna love it!” This new, real-world experience begins with a hype week of wild activities and lit event nights hosted by Carleton’s Student Experience Office, also known as frosh week. Below are a few must-follow tips to ensure a smooth start to your university experience: Don’t let […]

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Sex Blog: A dating guide to Capital Pride

Of all the cities to be out in, Ottawa ranks pretty high, but falls quite short of Toronto when it comes to a vibrant LGBTQ+ community. In a city as small as this, it is often hard to meet other LGBTQ+ people and find spaces with events for us. Some days, it can feel like you’re the only queer person in your sphere of existence. And as much as Canada is one of the safest places in the world to be LGBTQ+, there are days when it can still be hard and we all still face adversity from those who don’t understand or accept us for who we are. Pride is when everything shifts in our favor, even if it’s […]

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Sex blog: You should go and love yourself

Note: This blog post was written by an author who identifies as female. Not all tips may be applicable to all people. While it’s great to acknowledge that the relationships we make with others are important and can be some of the best parts of life, our relationships with ourselves also deserve our respect and attention. So maybe this year, try being the good kind of selfish: think about what you need. We need things emotionally and physically, but let’s start with those physical needs: take some time, alone, to–cough, cough–masturbate. Now all jokes aside it’s a good way to release some tension and find a happy and calm space. It also releases endorphins which make you feel great. Physical […]

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Sex blog: Let’s talk about sex, baby

The golden rule for sex is to always communicate. Of course, this is easier said than done, even if you feel completely at ease with whoever’s genitals you are fooling around with. Personal tastes are, well, personal, and there is a lot of stigma associated with many fetishes. Fear of rejection or ridicule is all too common, but I promise you it doesn’t have to be that way. Take no shame in your interests. Whether it’s BDSM, group sex, roleplay, anal play or literally anything ever, if it’s legal and consensual then it’s all good, baby bay-bay. Sure, others may not be into it, and that’s their prerogative—but you have the right to indulge in any consensual activity with whoever […]

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Sex blog: Consent campaigns and the complexity of sex

Communication is the key to sex-cess (insert laughter/groaning here), and consent is a major component of communication. There has been a lot of talk about consent lately, which is great. Consent is a two-way street: sexual partners also have the responsibility to ask consent. You want to have sex and someone says no? Don’t have sex. Someone wants to have sex with you and you don’t? Say no. These yes-or-no campaigns treat consent as a black-and-white issue: either you have it or you don’t. While it’s great that more and more people are being informed about consent, I strongly believe these campaigns could do a better job of reflecting the diversity of sex. Consent is easy to define with a […]

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